If you are in the process of going through a seperation or divorce, there are many ways to support your child(ren) through this difficult time. Speak to your child about how they feel. Check in with them frequently. Find out if they have questions. If you are not comfortable answering their questions or are unsure of how to help them, seek outside support. Here are some resources in our area:
High Street, Port Jefferson
Counseling Center and Appointments (631) 928-2377
Sunshine Prevention Center
468 Boyle Road Port Jefferson Station, NY 11776
Websites for kids:
Websites for parents:
Tips on How To Tell Your Children
Suggested Reading List & Discussion Questions:
Families Are Different by Nina Pellegrini
What does it mean to be a family? Who makes up a family?
Who is in Nico's family?
Why doesn't Nico look like her parents? How does that make her feel?
What are your friends' families like?
How do you express your feelings to your family?
How Do I Feel About My Parents Divorce by Julia Cole
What does DIVORCE mean?
What does SEPARATION mean?
Was it hard to leave your friends and change schools?
Did you feel like you had to leave someone behind?
Do you ever blame someone for the divorce?
Do you ever think it is your fault? Why?
Why do you think your parents plit up?
Do you ever feel stuck in the middle?
What can you do when your parents say mean things about each other in front of you?
*If your child has difficulty speaking to you, have them write a letter or keep a journal that you can share together.
Additional Books to Read:
Where Am I Sleeping Tonight? A Story of Divorce by Carol Gordon Ekster
Chelsea's Tree by Marcy McCann
They Both Love You: Two Seperate Houses, One Common Love by Kate D. Moore
Two Homes by Claire Masurel